by sewingmom on Sat Jun 29, 2013 12:20 pm
Friends, I just need to whine for a bit. I have been crying since Tuesday. Ronnie had a neurologist appointment that day and though he had a gastro intestinal virus, the doctor saw some improvement in his condition. He said he was surprised at the improvement and gave him the diagnosis of Alzheimer's. No one else has even suggested this possibility. Now to backtrack a little. I have had him tested for Alzheimer's 5 years ago and 2 years ago. Both times the doctors said their was no sign of it. Ronnie's mother and sisters had it. He never was the brightest crayon in the box, but for at least 10 years I suspected a decline in IQ and cognitive ability. That was the reason for the testing. Now I am permanently locked into a conservatorship and guardianship. The government control over how I manage our/his finances and property is leaving me with a huge weight on my chest because I can't seem to get my ducks in a row to get all the financial records gathered up and the proof of how I have managed his bills and accounts so far. I also have to provide an inventory of his possessions/assets ant their fair market value. What with getting Ronnie back and forth to therapy and keeping his diabetes in check and working full time, I am a basket case. I took Ronnie to his favorite breakfast spot and I cried there and then I cried a the grocery store. I have a psychiatric appointment on July 16. Its not soon enough. Am I foolish to hope the diagnosis is wrong and keep running myself ragged going to and paying for therapy? Should I keep hoping I have been wrong for years? Alzheimer's is misdiagnosed 50% of the time. I truly wish he and I could exit this awful situation. I must get this financial paper work gathered up but I am in a state of paralysis. I need suggestions based on anyone's research or experience.
1. The paperwork has to be turned in to the court by the lawyer on July 8. The house appraisal wont be ready till the 6th.
2. The IRS is holding Ronnie responsible for $32,000 in taxes +16000 in taxes owed by my son's business. The deadline to appeal this is July 15. My son has finely consented to release records for the appeal because his attempt to get them paid has failed. He helps with his Dad around 6-8 hours a day.
3. I haven't filed our personal income taxes and they due April 15. I did get an extension but I was trying to get all the paperwork together for that and began sorting it out on the Living room floor any keep getting sidetracked and forgetting what I had in mind to do.
4. I do not have any available time I can take off with pay. I am drowning and becoming more depressed by the minute. I lost my bottle of antidepressant.
5 I don't have anyone that can physically come help at the times I can use the help. I need someone to help with Ronnie a few hours and someone else to sit with me and help me stay on task. And I need help now!